Your 20s is such a pivotal point in your life. I call it the ‘foundation building years’. It’s the decade where most people get their first proper job, in their chosen field, it’s when you tend to move out from home, whether into a rented accommodation or from buying your own property and some people even get married or have children, or both. I’m 21, so I’m at the start of my 20s and whenever I talk to anyone who is in their 30s, 40s or older or see people in those age brackets referring to their 20s, many reminisce and say how they wish they didn’t worry so much about having their sh*t together or constantly worrying about the way they look.
A couple weeks ago when I was scrolling through Twitter, I came across a tweet, which read ‘don’t waste your 20s being insecure and lacking confidence’, and I couldn’t relate to a tweet more if I tried. Funnily enough, I’m at the heaviest I have ever been, but somehow I’m also the most confident I have ever been. Am I completely and utterly happy with my body? No. Could I loose a few pounds (or stones) definitely. But I’m a good person and I have so much more to offer than looking aesthetically pleasing to any old Tom, Dick and Harry. When I was in my early teens and way too obsessed with boys for my own good, I hated the fact that all the boys I liked didn’t like me back and I always thought, that if I was skinny or looked like the other girls that they would like me back. And now, many years later, I call bullsh*t.
Number one, a lot of boys in school are in a different headspace and some of them may not want to get teased by their mates by going out with a bigger girl. However (most) boys grow into men, and men don’t let fickle things like appearance or size stop them from getting to know or being with someone.
Number two, there’s nothing wrong with you. Like I said previously, you have way more to offer than your looks and if someone can’t bypass that, then they don’t deserve to get to know you anyway.
As aforementioned, I’m not exactly thrilled about my body, but at the same time I’m not ashamed of it either. As long as I am healthy (which I’m working on) and my body works, that’s all that matters to me right now. I have other things to focus on, such as getting my career kick started and ensuring that I keep my mental health on the straight and narrow.
